If there was one fundamental principle that I would recommend to anyone starting (or continuing) on a journey of personal growth it would be ‘work on your boundaries’.

When I look around me at people’s lives (and my own), it’s the inability to speak their truth that gets people most into trouble. It’s the moments when people say yes, but actually mean no, that slowly erodes (or better said: never allows to develop) their healthy relationship to self.

How often have we been there? We don't feel like doing something and yet we can not get ourselves to say that out of obligations, which is another way of saying guilt. …

I have recently met the love of my life. Every morning I wake up feeling surprised at how right it feels. At the inner knowing in my body that each time I check-in, simply says a big full YES.

I never had that before. And the novelty of it keeps surprising me…really? Is this really happening?

In all my past relationships, of course, I went through the ‘in-love’ stage first before reality started to hit the ground and interesting dynamics to assert themselves. Probably the same will happen here.

Same same but different. Because as much as I believe that we will get into dynamics that will need our attention and we, like all couples, will need to deal with ‘daily’ life kicking in and the love bubble becoming slightly less shiny, I never felt this deep trust and certainty…

I am a firm believer in the power of acknowledgment and at every end of the year, as a ritual, I write down the big things that happened that year.

The act of writing down my year and distilling the essence is important as it helps me to choose the story I want to tell myself about it. It makes me smile at my accomplishments and makes me leave the old year with a sense of pride. It grounds me in a sense of gratitude towards myself and life and fills my heart with excitement for the new, that is to come. …

What I have encountered a lot of recently in my work with people and personally is the catch within the ‘positive thinking’, ‘the live your highest potential’ and ‘create your own reality- i.e. you are what you think’ paradigms that have been so dominant and pervasive (invasive) in our conditioning over the last how many years.

It’s been a necessary step for our evolution to wake up to the power of our minds and thoughts, however, it is only a step and not the goal and the way it’s being pushed on the net and media is only on a very surface level and in fact halting our process to go deeper into our own truth and heart. …

When I was growing up I suffered a lot from anxiety. Every exam we had at school I would get diarrhea and frequently run to the toilet.

My stomach was constantly in a knot and I felt nauseated and shaky all the time. More than it was uncomfortable it was actually really annoying.

Why couldn’t I be just normal?

Sure, my friends got nervous too, but none of them had to sacrifice their precious breaks for constant bathroom time. They were able to manage their nerves much better than me, even though I was actually really good at school!

It would be a few more years before I finally understood what actually happens to my nervous system (NS) when I experience anxiety and to drop the very harsh self-criticism that would make things even worse. …

I am sitting in front of my Coach on a Zoom Call. She has just asked me about the vision for my business and I’m off elaborating on all the creative ideas that I have.

As I am getting more and more excited about my vision, my legs have come across each other and even my arms have ended up in a twisted pretzel kind of posture. My breath had shortened and I’d started feeling a knot in my diaphragm.

Pause, she says.

What’s going on in your body right now?

Busted. I have resistance to tuning in what’s moving for me. But I know she is right. Somehow my subconscious has taken over the paintbrush and started splashing colorful and yet uncomfortable physical sensations all over my body (in an attempt to communicate some profound and yet obscure truth no doubt). …

I used to drive fast everywhere I went. I mean, not crazy kamikaze fast, but I always felt that as soon as I stepped in the car, I was in a rush.

That might have to do with the fact that I’m living in Ibiza, this jewel of an island that is so breathtakingly beautiful, that one would imagine it would have the opposite effect on people than getting stressed. And it certainly does when you are on holiday.
But if you are here permanently, you may find yourself under pressure getting from A to Z on time.

And if it wasn’t about time then it was about efficiency. Spending so much time in the car on a daily basis made me always want to make the best use of it by listening to voice messages, podcasts, and audiobooks. …

I recently learned how to slackline. I’m not a pro but I can walk up and down the line and if you have ever set a foot on one of them you know that that’s not an easy feat.

In fact, the most common response of someone trying it for the first time is something like ‘WTF! This is impossible!’

Because you see someone walking on the line and it looks relatively easy, you just don’t expect that the line when you put your foot on it for the very first time wobbles like a mother…trucker.

It’s seriously insane.

From there it’s inconceivable that you will ever be able to actually do it. It feels humanly impossible. Except you see others do it. Damn. Here goes your story of defeat. …