Humans 101

Unlearn these harmful mindsets that keep you stuck

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Picture this: For years, you’re working on yourself, doing all sorts of therapy, healing ceremonies, meditations, and other obscure practices, only to find yourself triggered by an unforeseen event and back in a rut.

You thought you figured out all your relationship issues and believed you were ready for The One, only to repeat the same patterns and end up frustrated and more self-critical than ever.

Then, on top of everything, your mind gives you unsolicited advice: I should know better by now.

When you believe that voice in your head, it’s easy to feel defeated and lose sight of…

The secret to more energy and intimacy

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If there was one fundamental principle that I would recommend to anyone starting (or continuing) on a journey of personal growth it would be ‘work on your boundaries’.

When I look around me at people’s lives (and my own), it’s the inability to speak their truth that gets people most into trouble. It’s the moments when people say yes, but actually mean no, that slowly erodes (or better said: never allows to develop) their healthy relationship to self.

How often have we been there? We don't feel like doing something and yet we can not get ourselves to say that…

Being true to yourself isn’t always easy.

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I have recently met the love of my life. Every morning I wake up feeling surprised at how right it feels. At the inner knowing in my body that each time I check-in, simply says a big full YES.

I never had that before. And the novelty of it keeps surprising me…really? Is this really happening?

In all my past relationships, of course, I went through the ‘in-love’ stage first before reality started to hit the ground and interesting dynamics to assert themselves. Probably the same will happen here.

Same same but different. Because as much as I believe that…

Even though 2020 was a year of unprecedented challenges, it was also a year full of truth-telling and growth

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I am a firm believer in the power of acknowledgment and at every end of the year, as a ritual, I write down the big things that happened that year.

The act of writing down my year and distilling the essence is important as it helps me to choose the story I want to tell myself about it. It makes me smile at my accomplishments and makes me leave the old year with a sense of pride. It grounds me in a sense of gratitude towards myself and life and fills my heart with excitement for the new, that is…

And why it’s important to suffer rightly

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What I have encountered a lot of recently in my work with people and personally is the catch within the ‘positive thinking’, ‘the live your highest potential’ and ‘create your own reality- i.e. you are what you think’ paradigms that have been so dominant and pervasive (invasive) in our conditioning over the last how many years.

It’s been a necessary step for our evolution to wake up to the power of our minds and thoughts, however, it is only a step and not the goal and the way it’s being pushed on the net and media is only on a…

This is really what happens in your body and what you can do about it

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When I was growing up I suffered a lot from anxiety. Every exam we had at school I would get diarrhea and frequently run to the toilet.

My stomach was constantly in a knot and I felt nauseated and shaky all the time. More than it was uncomfortable it was actually really annoying.

Why couldn’t I be just normal?

Sure, my friends got nervous too, but none of them had to sacrifice their precious breaks for constant bathroom time. They were able to manage their nerves much better than me, even though I was actually really good at school!


After years of therapy, psychedelics, and spiritual questing this is what actually makes a difference

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I am sitting in front of my Coach on a Zoom Call. She has just asked me about the vision for my business and I’m off elaborating on all the creative ideas that I have.

As I am getting more and more excited about my vision, my legs have come across each other and even my arms have ended up in a twisted pretzel kind of posture. My breath had shortened and I’d started feeling a knot in my diaphragm.

Pause, she says.

What’s going on in your body right now?

Busted. I have resistance to tuning in what’s moving…

Instead of seeing it as a waste, use the time in your car to un-stress yourself

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I used to drive fast everywhere I went. I mean, not crazy kamikaze fast, but I always felt that as soon as I stepped in the car, I was in a rush.

That might have to do with the fact that I’m living in Ibiza, this jewel of an island that is so breathtakingly beautiful, that one would imagine it would have the opposite effect on people than getting stressed. And it certainly does when you are on holiday.
But if you are here permanently, you may find yourself under pressure getting from A to Z on time.

And if…

Let’s get real about what it takes to be truly you

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I recently learned how to slackline. I’m not a pro but I can walk up and down the line and if you have ever set a foot on one of them you know that that’s not an easy feat.

In fact, the most common response of someone trying it for the first time is something like ‘WTF! This is impossible!’

Because you see someone walking on the line and it looks relatively easy, you just don’t expect that the line when you put your foot on it for the very first time wobbles like a mother…trucker.

It’s seriously insane.


What my new love is teaching me about being in love, not wanting to be hurt again, and true relating.

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Not that long ago, I wrote an article called: I’m 36, gorgeous, clever and single: what have I been doing wrong?. I wrote about the fact that it’s really about owning our full yes to life that will open us up to love. I still believe that. But…

Well, as life would have it, since then things have changed. I can’t say that I have MET the man of my life since I had already known the man, that now is worming his way deeper and deeper into my heart, making me grin like a silly teenage girl from ear…

Kasia Patzelt

Embodiment Coach. Here to co-create an Authentic Human Reality.

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