How 'Healing' Can Backfire

And the secret that changes everything

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Healing is everywhere these days: Biohack your way to optimal performance. Unlock your highest potential. Transform your trauma. Break through your blocks. Ayahuasca your way to Enlightenment. Expand, ascend, evolve.

It sounds good, right? It definitely did to me for years. But there’s a problem, which is what I call the shadow side of healing.

For a lot of people, healing has become just another thing to achieve — another self-improvement project fuelled by the underlying belief: I’m not enough as I am.

Unfortunately this is exactly what keeps people stuck in the same patterns for years.

The Trap of Constant Fixing

I’ve been watching it everywhere: friends, clients and myself. People diving into deep work, chasing the next breakthrough, convinced that if they just clear one more pattern, release one more trauma, then they’ll finally feel …I would like to say whole, but for most people it's even more vague than that.

For most people it's happy, powerful, free, devoid of suffering, successful, healed, safe etc. (which one is it for you?)

But even if it was wholeness, that we aspired to, it is still not something we get to after enough…